FAQ’s, In Their Words
The 3 Little Interviews: My approach
I interviewed 3 of JH’s past clients in mid-October 2018. I encouraged each client to share anything they wanted to relay, and posed the following questions (as a consistent framework) along the way. Note that I did not inform them that I would be sharing their responses with you; that idea came to me after I completed the interviews.
How did you define success? Feeling? Metric?
How present and/or important was knowledge of your field or expertise about business, etc?
What were your expected outcomes?
How did Jules identify and help you through your resistances? How did she help you hear and then apply feedback/realizations?
Tell me the nuts and bolts of the process - location, duration, frequency.
Tell me about your views on the cost vs value.
Tell me about your actual coaching experience and result.
Was personality fit an issue for you, and do you have advice on working with Jules in particular?
Afterwards, I flushed out the interview notes into whole thoughts, bringing in some of my interpretations and lending more descriptive language as I felt was necessary to convey outside of the context of the interview.
Elise works in the tech industry but has an indelible passion for food! She was stuck and overwhelmed, and couldn’t convey or translate her enthusiasm into a “doing” stage.
“Jules pierces through to the meat of things.” Do you love the food part?? meat ;)
“She is an exquisite listener.”
What worked for Elise was having an abstract, neutral perspective. This shifted her paradigm. Jules asked the questions that needed to be asked. She noticed her own tendency to say something important, then laugh through it awkwardly in a subconscious effort to skip over it.
Regarding expertise: the fact of the matter is that logistics are easy, and can be determined. What’s hard is cutting through the bullshit that’s putting the breaks on getting you to the logistics stage.
Work with Jules revealed what holds me back, and rich learning came from those identifications. The enormous value of unearthing those, in their very discovery. Coaching changed how I worked with clients, and made me a better healer.
Pursuing what I intrinsically wanted involved: getting over myself. Coaching allowed me to tease out the thing that’s holding me back. That self-limiting element is not gone, but it doesn’t stop me anymore.
Determining the essence of what will propel me forward transcends industry jargon, knowledge of organizational structures. In short, for my coach to have expertise in my field was not necessary to yield extraordinary insights in my professional growth. Jules pays acute attention and listens in amazing ways.
Significant action components are part of a fruitful coaching process. Tangible action steps are a critical part of the process that move epiphanies to outcomes. Learning translates into applicable steps, and sessions are linked together with homework that edge the work forward.
Her goals were to be comfortable as a leader, to take risks, and to grow a sense of community in her business.
Jules is a great listener, she has an amazing ear. Coaching granted time for reflection, to loop back, and to test things. Themes emerge and reveal themselves: areas you need to grow in versus things you’re actually good at, but your inner critic is not allowing you to file it under “things I am good at”. Coaching gets you to a place where you can own your goodnesses!
“Coaching changed my life.”
1 or 2 more thoughts…
Interestingly while I don’t doubt that the outcome Judith was seeking came to fruition, she spoke most passionately about an epiphany that nature was missing from her life, that she got a puppy, and this propelled her into the natural world. She said she started to “notice” and that this has made all of the difference!”
Thank you for capturing this, this is so wild! In fact, it was on Judith’s visioning half-day intensive that Judith recognized a 6th value of hers, “beauty” and noticed this incredible labradoodle during our intensive. She was so energized by it that I inquired further. Notions of beauty came up, as well as the routine being outside with dogs that happens when you have them. I asked her… “so what does this mean?” assuming she’d say she wanted to get a dog. She talked about the beauty part and how she’d “love that, but there’s no way I can get a dog right now.” Also during this day, we took a deep dive into her core values as one of them was nature.
Next session started off with her indicating a sliiiiight lack of sleep because of…. you guessed it… a new labradoodle puppy that doesn’t sleep the same hours! Ha!
Now, I try to warn clients when they sign up for coaching, “you’re really opening the door to all possibilities… why do you want to do that? You sure?! You may end up in a different job in 6 months or, own a new puppy that you thought you could never have!”